“Trust, unlike consent, is also relational. It is built over time. It has degrees and granularity. It evolves. It is fragile and requires nurturing and patience. All things that the Western mind has trouble with. Trust relationships are never black and white.
On the other hand, consent is binary. Either you have it or you don’t. It can be given or withdrawn with a word at any time for any reason or for no reason at all. It is fast, clear, easy, and direct. It removes the nebulous human element (or at least purports to) and replaces it with logical, legalistic simplicity.”
This is another article coming from kinbakutoday by Zetsu Nawa. It is really a must-read and we would like to recommend it.
Do not simply share a list of “I want/I do not want”.
Build a relation. Gain her trust!